Between #MeToo, the Aziz Ansari sexual encounter story that broke earlier this week, and every woman who's ever felt uncomfortable in a sexual encounter EVER, there's a lot to discuss about sex culture, consent, boundaries, and the complexities of gendered social conditioning.
What really interests me about stories like this is how often the women who feel violated are then vilified by people with all kinds of opinions on what she should have done and how it's her fault because she didn't give a hard "No," or whatever other bullshit reason. Yet, they don't have shit to say about the male's behavior of how he crossed the line, coerced, or even used the advantage of some kind of power dynamic.
To be clear I'm not even talking about Aziz Ansari. I'm talking about the complexities of how we are socialized when it comes to sex and how that creates a breeding ground for problematic sexual encounters. In this video I break down how the interplay of women being socialized to cater to men, men being socialized to feel entitled to women's bodies, and the very real danger women face in saying "No" when they already feel violated. Watch below.
This conversation is complex, nuanced, complicated, uncomfortable, and fucking necessary for us to start having. The norm can no longer continue being the norm. What's typical or common needs to be called out for what it is. It's not about vilifying anyone, it's about examining our cultural norms and calling for a change.
Everyone needs to start breaking down and breaking out of our internalized social conditionings so that women can stand up and speak out when they need to and men can respect boundaries without feeling emasculated because they didn't get what they want.
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