Have you ever had a period in your life where a lot of things seem to be changing at once? I don’t mean when life whacks you with one thing after another and you’re racing and struggling to keep up. I mean when you start getting real clarity and CREATE change after change, make adjustments, and start upleveling your life?
That’s what the last few months have been like for me and I am basking in it! I am a HUGE advocate of being honest with yourself about what you want, letting go of what people expect, and living your true self and life.
That usually involves some truth speaking, some dancing with fear, and very often letting things go so you can make space for something better. I went through this process as recently as last week and I want to share my steps with you so you can implement them for yourself.
I’ve been doing a lot of revamping of Ignite & Thrive Creative, not just the brand colors and website, but also my actual mission, who I serve, and how I want to serve them. I’ve spent time getting really honest about the work I want to do and really tuned into my authentic voice. Last week I took a hard look at my #ThriveWriters Facebook group and how it plays into my business.
I’ve loved having the group and sharing with all those who have joined over the last 8 months. I’ve loved teaching, helping everyone, and also being let into so many creative writers lives and creative processes. There is a lot of good I was able to do in that space and a lot of shifts people were able to make.
Yet there were things that weren’t in alignment with the direction I am headed. For example, the group was really designed for creative writers. Now, I’m expanding beyond writers to working with all types of creatives and creative entrepreneurs specifically on their fears and getting past their bullshit.
I could feel the misalignments. Literally, I could feel it my body.
I Love Me Some Truth Bombs…
Instead of ignoring the feeling, I paused and started asking myself some key questions. These are questions you can ask yourself when you feel a misalignment in an area of your life.
- Is this really serving the purpose I intend for it?
- Is this where I really want to spend my time?
- Is there a better way accomplish what I desire?
These questions can be adapted and modified to whatever your situation is. For example, “Is this relationship giving me what I need?”
All these questions lead to this big one: “Am I thriving here?”
That’s the truth you have to answer for yourself. For me I had to be really honest that for what I want to do and how I want to serve my people my Facebook group was not the avenue to do so.
Stepping out of fear
It goes further than just speaking your truth though. I can’t tell you how many times people were finally honest about what they want–a battle in itself–then stay in the exact same place.
Once you speak your truth you have two choices: You can choose to continue doing what you know is not best for you. Or you can take action and make a change. That change you need to make to thrive can scare the shit out of you whether it’s small, like closing a FB group, or big like ending an 8 year relationship and moving to another country.
You might find yourself in a post-truth speaking situation asking, “Why not keep doing it anyway? It’s still [insert thought here].”
Here’s the thing, the time you spend doing something that isn’t in alignment with YOU is time you’re taking away from things that will serve and enliven you even better. As much as I’ve loved my FB group I chose to close it so I can redirect my time and energy into more effective ways of helping the people I want to help.
I. Took. Action. That was an act of stepping out of fear. To LET GO of something I cared about so I can do more, serve more, and be more was a freedom-based action instead of a fear-based action.
Letting go doesn’t make you a failure, or mean you gave up, or that you aren’t worthy, or that you suck. It means you made a radical act of self love by speaking your truth and stepping out of fear so you can do and live into something greater. Your greater self.
If you take one little nugget from this let be:
Thriving always means letting something go.
It can be an expectation, a project, a person, a job, a thought pattern, a belief, a type of food… It can be anything. Whatever it is – let it GO.
I challenge you to identify one thing in your life that you suspect (and have maybe been ignoring up to this point) is something that isn’t right for you. Start asking the key questions, speak your truth, LISTEN, and let go of whatever you need to to thrive!
Share in the comments what you’re letting go of an how that will help you THRIVE!
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